The Story Behind the Mission
I didn't build this practice from theory. I built it from the wreckage of my own passivity.
For years, I was stuck in patterns I didn't even recognize. I kept the peace. I absorbed blame that wasn't mine. I stayed quiet when I should have spoken. I thought I was being a good man. I was actually disappearing.
I know what it feels like to wake up one day and realize you've been living in a fog. To see manipulation tactics clearly for the first time and understand they'd been running on you for years. To look in the mirror and not recognize the man staring back because somewhere along the way, you stopped fighting for yourself.
The path out wasn't clean. Transformation cost me relationships I thought were permanent. I had to make hard choices about who got access to my life. Some people don't want you to change because your passivity benefits them. When you stop being compliant, you find out fast who was with you and who was just using you.
I've been married to my wife Becky for over 21 years. We're raising two kids. Everything I teach about marriage and fatherhood and leadership, I'm living in real time. My children are watching me figure out what it means to lead without being passive or harsh. I don't have the luxury of theory.
That personal stake is matched by professional depth. Over 35,000 clinical hours since 2007. Thousands of men across from me who were stuck, scared, angry, or numb. And in all those hours, one pattern kept emerging: men who surrendered their ground not to enemies, but to passivity. Men who stopped leading because it was easier to defer. Men who traded their voice for peace and ended up with neither.
That's what Lions Don't Bow is about. It's a rallying cry for men who are tired of living small. Men who know, deep down, that they were built for more than avoidance and accommodation.
I've seen what happens when men wake up. When they stop being domesticated and start leading. Marriages that looked dead come back to life. Children who were drifting find their footing. Generations change direction.
My work now focuses exclusively on men. Not because women don't matter, but because the world is not short of messages for women. It's short of men who will step up. And someone needs to challenge men directly, without apology, to become who they were created to be.
If you're reading this, maybe you're tired of being stuck. Maybe you're ready to stop drifting and start building. If that's you, I'd be honored to help you find your way out of the fog.
Lions don't bow. And neither should you.