Father Wound Inventory

Read this first. A father wound is not the same as having had a bad dad. Some of the deepest wounds came from fathers who were “good men” - they just were not present, did not say the words, did not see the boy in the room.

Mark every statement that fits you in the last six months. Not the version you wish you were. Not the version you used to be. The version that exists today.

Nothing is sent anywhere. Nobody sees this but you.

Indicators Marked

OUT OF 12

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Where to Begin

Study · Antwone Fisher

When Your Father Wasn't There

For the wound itself. The dad who was gone, the dad who was cold, the dad you needed and did not get.

Study · Good Will Hunting

It's Not Your Fault

For the lie that got installed when you were too small to defend yourself. The voice in your head that says you were the reason.

Study · Field of Dreams

The Catch You Never Had

For the conversation that did not happen. The Father who is still offering it, every day, with a different name.

Study · The Chosen

What's Under the Anger

If anger is one of the indicators you marked. The anger is the surface. The wound is the well.

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The Masculinity Audit

When you are ready to see what manhood is supposed to look like. The book most fathers should have read before they raised you.

If This Is Heavier Than You Expected

Some men open this inventory and find the wound is bigger than they thought. That is normal. Tell one trusted man this week. Consider talking with a Christian counselor. If you are in crisis, the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is free, confidential, and 24/7. You are not alone in this.

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